Are You Addicted To Busyness?

Are You Addicted to Busyness?

By Carlene Ashby

“..ask us to lighten our load, actually say no to a task, and we start to panic. As if our world would shatter if we slowed down.  The truth is, we’ve become so controlled by shoulds, oughts, musts, have-tos that we’ve lost sight of what’s honestly important.” ~ Barbara Stanny

Is this you?  Do you have trouble slowing down?  Difficulty saying no? Problems staying present with what you are doing?

Are you addicted to busyness?  I confess, I am.  It is my biggest vice.

It is a major problem amongst most people these days, especially entrepreneurs.  Think about it, when was the last time you sat down to eat a meal in silence without reading or watching tv?  Can you just sit on your deck and pay attention to the sun on your skin, or do you need to have your laptop there, checking emails compulsively?  Is your phone on 24 hours a day?

The irony of the addiction to busyness is that it comes from a drive to succeed and a compulsion to get more done, but it is actually counterproductive because the well of what needs to be done never runs dry.  The well just gets deeper as society’s expectations of productivity increases.

In today’s society, multitasking is an expectation.  Doing one thing at a time, mindfully, is almost impossible with the invention of Blackberrys, iPhones, faster computers, dvds in vehicles, and laptops that keep getting smaller and more portable.  We can’t even stop texting while we drive for crying out loud.  But why are we doing this?  Truly, what is the point of this multi-tasking?

My answer has always been, “well, if I get more done now, then I can relax later.”  I’ve always included technologies that help me get several things done at once, so that I can be done.  But I’m never done!

At the end of the day, when I should be able to feel great about what I’ve accomplished and relax, I just feel anxious about all the things I have to do tomorrow and all the things I could be doing in that moment.

I have structured my lifestyle so that I work part-time so I can enjoy free time and pursue my passions which most people would find enviable, but lately I’ve noticed that I am not enjoying any of that extra time because I am thinking about work while I’m doing it.

Does any of this ring a bell for you?  If so, you may want to do this week’s assignment and detox the busy drug from your life.

Your Prosperity Assignment Should You Choose To Accept It:

1)     Organize yourself- Many times we’re doing too many things at once because we’re just taking on projects as they pop up and shifting our priorities as the day goes on.  As more projects come up, write them down in your daytimer (you do use one, right?!) and decide which needs to happen next.  Decide if you can finish what you are doing, or if you need to come back to it.

2)     Say NO!  Stop adding things to your plate simply because someone asks.  If you find it hard to say no, try this, “Thanks for asking, but no, I simply can’t.”  It works well because there is nothing to argue with.

3)     Do one thing at a time…Just for today!-  I will not tell you to just simply do one thing at a time for the rest of your life and- tada!-  problem solved.  Au contraire.  It will take time to practice doing one thing at a time, so challenge yourself in each moment to be present with what you are doing.  Eat sitting down and taste your food.  Write your blog with the tv off.  Check your email once a day- okay twice.  Drive without talking on your phone or texting.  Watch tv without trying to work!  Just be present with whatever you are doing for a moment, an hour, a morning, a day.

4)     Write down all your beliefs about relaxation, work, multi-tasking, busyness, etc and question them.  Do The Work of Byron Katie on your thoughts and see if you can find alternative realities to your current thoughts and beliefs.  You may surprise yourself.  Visit www.thework.com on how to do inquiry.

5)     Schedule down time.  If you want to end your work day at 8pm, turn off the phone at 8, turn off the computer and relax with a cup of tea and a good book.  But don’t do chores or work.  Just enjoy and see what happens!

© Copyright 2010 Carlene Ashby

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Little Gril PaintingWhat Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?

By Carlene Ashby

“Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it.  The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.”  ~Earl Nightingale

When we were little, and people asked us what we wanted to be when we grew up, our answers were things like, astronaut, fireman, princess, Olympian, ninja, Barbie…you know, the usual answers.

As we get older, most of us lower our expectations to more suitable careers that are simpler to attain than becoming a nuclear physicist or a 7-foot blonde with impossible proportions and a pink corvette.

But what if your lowered expectations never quite feel right?  Or you just can’t find that one thing that makes you tick.  Many people come to me with problems that stem from the fact that they are not passionate about their lives because their careers, well, for lack of a more concise description-suck.

I have a few different thoughts on this.

A) Choosing one career for the rest of your life is archaic and boring.  Be open to changing careers.  It is okay to have a side job or part-time gig that you love which could turn into a full-time thing in the future if you wanted it to.

B) Doing what you love does not always have to be paid work.  Volunteer opportunities and continuing education classes are great opportunities to try out different vocations.

C) If you are not passionate about your life simply because your job sucks, then either you are working way too much, or you are not making enough of your down time.  The term work hard, play hard is an excellent suggestion.  Use your down-time for whatever you love, not just “relaxing” in front of the tv.

The obvious solution to career dissatisfaction is to search for a career that is more in line with your likes and loves.

What did you love doing as a kid?  It is usually a good indicator of what you’d enjoy now.  If you loved digging in the dirt, perhaps landscape design would be your next career.  If you loved sports, perhaps becoming a sports journalist or personal trainer would suit you.

There is always a connection to find, as long as you are open to finding it.
Your Prosperity Assignment Should You Choose To Accept It:

1.      Make a list of things that turn you on.  It doesn’t have to be something that you are good at, or have even tried.  It can be glass blowing, yoga, ultimate fighting, gardening, writing, dancing, hiking, accounting, painting, landscaping, whatever.  As long as it sparks a love within you. Circle your top 5.

2.      Research opportunities to pursue your top 5 loves.  It may be job opportunities, volunteer opportunities, workshops, continuing education classes, college courses or simply visiting a hobby store.

3.      Write out the steps you need to take to integrate your loves into your life.  Schedule each of these steps into your daytimer.  Be aware that your schedule may start to look very full.  That is what happens when you play as hard as you work.  The playing starts to take up equal space!

4.      Take time to dream about what you want to be when you grow up and allow yourself to keep following those dreams, regardless of whether or not your career cooperates!

© Copyright 2010 Carlene Ashby

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How to Craft an Authentic Elevator Speech People Say YES to!

By Carlene Ashby

A deer in the headlights: Someone’s reaction when you tell them about your obscure modality.  We’ve all been there.  You are at a party or a networking event, or a family reunion, and someone asks you what you do for a living.  If you are a life coach, a holistic therapist of any kind, an intuitive, or any other profession that the general public doesn’t clearly understand, then you know how awkward this can be.  Here is why: You are giving them a title that has no meaning for them and therefore they have no idea what to say.  The mission here today is to find a new way to communicate what you do so that people will raise their hand to become a client or recommend you to someone they know.

For instance, if you are a tarot or angel card reader, and you are at the chamber of commerce for a networking event, you may get a lot of blank stares if your response to “What do you do?” is “I’m a tarot/angel card reader.”  Another way to say that, is to tell them about the results you offer.  Your answer to this may be something like this: “Do you know business owners or executives who are great at what they do, but occasionally get stressed out and confused about making big decisions?  Well I help them to get clear on the best decision for them by getting them to tap into their intuition.”  Doesn’t that sound a lot clearer?

Your Prosperity Assignment Should You Choose To Accept It:

1. Answer the following questions:

a.  Who is my ideal client? (1 to 2 words)

b.  What problem do I help them solve? (1 to 4 words)

c.  What do you help them to experience? (1 to 4 words)

d.  How do I help them? (1 to 3 words)

2.  Use your answers above to fill in the blanks below:

My purpose is to help/ assist ___(a)___ who __(b)__to __(c)__ by/ through ___(d)__.

Ex.) “I help conscious entrepreneurs who struggle with marketing to create marketing materials that attract clients through my various coaching programs.”

If you need help crafting your “elevator speech” or would like feedback on it, email me at info@Prosperity-Through-Purpose and I’d be happy to help.

© Copyright 2010 Carlene Ashby

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Decide to Be a Success

Decide to Be a Success

By Carlene Ashby

A wise man once said, “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.”  That wise man was Dr. Seuss, a man who created great success for himself by doing what he was great at.  He chose his path and he decided on his own direction.

Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich, one of the best books on success of all time, wrote about the power of decision.  He describes that the key to success is a burning desire that will cause you to do absolutely whatever it takes to get what you want.  That desire is the key to decision.

The word, decide comes from the Latin, decidere, which literally means “to cut off from.” When you decide, you cut yourself off from all other possibilities.

There is no limit to what you can do once you truly decide to do it.  History is full of people who were called dreamers and worse for following their heart’s true desire and without them nothing great could have been accomplished.  Martin Luther King, Barbara Walters, Oprah Winfrey and Barack Obama all came from humble beginnings and faced great obstacles.  They were all told at several points to give up on their dreams, that they were being unrealistic, that they would not be successful.  And yet they persevered.  They had the burning desire to succeed and so they decided to do whatever it took to achieve their dreams.

“And will you succeed? Yes indeed, yes indeed! Ninety-eight and three-quarters percent guaranteed.” -Dr. Seuss

Are you ready to decide to create a successful business with the lifestyle you dream of?

Excellent.  Let’s get started.  The key to decision is motivation.  As Tony Robbins says, there are two motivators for humans.  Pain and pleasure.  We will do more to avoid pain than gain pleasure.  Does this mean we need to begin to hate our lives before we make a change?  Well, no, but discomfort is necessary.

If you are perfectly comfortable in your life, then why change anything?  You must become uncomfortable enough to make a change.  How do we do this?  Decide on a goal, and then look at the benefits of accomplishing it and the consequences of not accomplishing it.

Well first, define what it is that you want to create.  For example, let’s say you decide you want to create a successful information marketing business.  You are going to sell you proprietary system for creating organic babyfood easily and inexpensively.  You want to work 25 hours a week and you want to make $150,000 a year.

Now define all the great reasons for doing that.   Why do you want to create that kind of success?  You want to help parents raise healthy babies, you want to vacation often, live in a bigger home with a large garden and finally afford to go to that spa retreat in the mountains once a month.  Great.  How will you feel when you accomplish this?  Proud, grateful, joyful, abundant?

Now what will happen and how will you feel if you do not create success in your business?  You’ll keep going to that dead-end job, you’ll slowly have your soul sucked out one draining day at a time, you’ll continue to lose your passion for life, you be disappointed in yourself, etc.  Connect to the emotions of not accomplishing the goal.

Now decide.  Are you going to do what it takes to accomplish it?  Will you walk through fire to create success for yourself?  Will you do that which others won’t to get the results that others wish for?  If you can say yes, then you are committed.

Write out your decision and place it somewhere you will see it everyday.  Tell supportive people about your decision.  Ignore the unsupportive ones. Remember, as the infinitely wise Dr. Seuss said, “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

Now create the structure for that commitment.  When will you set aside time for your business creation, your marketing efforts, your education, your brainstorming?  Who will you enlist to help you achieve your goal?  Who will keep you accountable on this journey?  How will you fund this endeavor?  What will you give up in order to make room for this success?  Every day ask yourself, is this action bringing me closer to my purpose?  If the answer is anything but yes, choose something else.

And so I will end with the great Dr. Seuss “Today is your day, your mountain is waiting, so get on your way.”

© Copyright 2010 Carlene Ashby

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Create your Purposeful, Prosperous Vision

Create your Purposeful, Prosperous Vision

By Carlene Ashby

“What the mind of man can conceive and believe, It can achieve.” ~ Napoleon Hill

Mr. Hill was a manifesting master.  If you’ve read Think and Grow Rich, you know how important it is to keep your goals front and centre in your mind.  (If you haven’t, then finish reading this article and go get that book.)

A great way to keep your focus on your goals is to have a physical reminder of them.

I’m talking of course, about vision boards.  If you haven’t heard of a vision board, it is a canvas, a corkboard or a poster board that is covered in images and items that stimulate your imagination to experience the feeling of having that which you desire.

For instance, I have a vision board for my career that represents myself helping millions of people who in turn help millions of others.  I put things on there that represent wealth, joy, my ideal client, (which we’ll get into next,) and the team that I need to be successful.

You can use anything on your vision board that makes you feel fantastic.  Use photos, cheques, magazine images, drawings, whatever you want.  All that is important is that your vision board comes from your creative juices and makes you feel good when you look at it.

So here is your assignment should you choose to accept it:

Get your creative juices flowing!  Use your imagination to create a detailed vision for your future and create a physical manifestation of that vision!

Step 1:  Write out everything you want to experience in relation to your goal.  Success, money, love, joy, fulfillment, etc.

Step 2:  Then find or create an item for your board that represents each of these experiences.

Step 3:  Attach them to your board in whichever manner you please, and Voila!  You have a vision board that will be a powerful manifestation tool for you.

Step 4:  Put it in a conspicuous spot you will look at frequently throughout the day and let those good feelings flow!

© Copyright 2010 Carlene Ashby

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Squash Your Gremlins

Squash Your Gremlins

By Carlene Ashby

The hands-down hardest thing about being an entrepreneur when you’re starting out is keeping the faith.  When there aren’t enough clients and the bills are piling up, it can be really hard to stay focused.

It can be really easy to start listening to the gremlin in your head that says something like this: “You’re crazy to be doing this! Who do you think you are? You’ll never make a living at this! You should just give up and get a job.”  Sound familiar?

Everyone has their doubts and fears.  And almost everyone has at least one naysayer in their life who project their own doubts and fears on you.

The key to drowning out that toxic noise is to focus on why you’re doing this.  Focus on your purpose.  You have been given specific gifts and talents in order to serve a specific group of people.  And that group needs you!  They need you to serve them.  You have a duty to bring your gifts to these people to improve their lives.

And what about you?  Think about all the reasons that you want to do this.  Think about the freedom that comes from being self-employed.  Think of the opportunities to do what you love, to make passive income, to spend more time with your family, to travel, to refuse to drive during rush hour!

Focusing on all the reasons you want and need to make this successful can help you do the things that you need to do but may not want to do.  When you are feeling too shy to approach a colleague about a joint venture, or too intimidated to speak at a seminar, think of all those reasons to be brave.

Your Prosperity Assignment Should You Choose To Accept:

Create a list of reasons to be brave, to think bigger, to get more done in a day than humanly be possible and make your dream a reality.

Put your top ten reasons together and make several copies:

  1. Make a wallet sized copy and put it in the clear, driver’s license spot so you can be reminded every time you open it.
  2. Put a copy on the bathroom mirror so you every morning, you inspire yourself  to be great!
  3. Put a big, colourful copy in your workspace where you can see it to keep you motivated throughout the day.

This sounds simple, but it works, I promise.  Don’t delay.   Don’t say, “Yeah, yeah, I’ll do it later.”  Do it now.  Make your list today, so that if a day comes when you feel worn out or hopeless, or just plain discouraged, you’ll have 10 good reasons to get up and give it all you’ve got!

© Copyright 2010 Carlene Ashby

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How to Be an Entrepreneurial Ninja

How to Be an Entrepreneurial Ninja

By Carlene Ashby

Let’s talk about the number one entrepreneurial sin: Laziness!  We all through it from time to time; not wanting to get out of our pajamas, not wanting to make cold-calls or write that article.  Working for one’s self can be so freeing and rewarding, but with that freedom can come a lack of discipline.

Discipline is so important to an entrepreneur.  Discipline is the difference between creating a successful business and having a hobby.  This doesn’t mean you have to sit in your office from 6am to 10 pm, slaving away.  What it does mean is that you have a set schedule and a routine.

Your Prosperity Assignment Should You Choose To Accept It:

  1. Set up a workspace where all you do is work. This area is not for eating, watching t.v. or napping.  Ideally it is a room that you can close the door on and put up a do not disturb sign.  Let your family and partners know that your workspace is where you do business and it is to be respected as a place of business.
  2. Create a calendar for the week and decide what you will do on each day. For example: On Mondays I write articles, attend a mastermind meeting and work with my business coach.  On Tuesdays I work with clients and work on press releases.  On Wednesdays I work with clients and do administrative work, on Thursdays I work on marketing, joint ventures, networking and cultivating referrals.  On Fridays I work with clients in the morning and use the afternoon to treat myself to whatever I need, such as a massage, a manicure, a pedicure or even lunch with a friend.  Create your own schedule this way.  Make sure you have at least one day a week set aside for marketing.
  3. Create time slots for each day for you to get up, exercise, meditate, eat breakfast, work, break for tea, work, eat lunch, etc, etc.  Perhaps you will only work until 2pm, that’s fine, just make sure you have an end point to your day or you could get swallowed up in work and we don’t want that either.
  4. Set up a monthly calendar that you can see at a glance and use it whenever you schedule something with someone.  This prevents double bookings and lets you see if you are piling too much into one week.  Don’t burn yourself out by cramming too much into each week or booking too many meetings back-to-back.  I use a day timer for this and I couldn’t live without it!
  5. For 30 days, follow your schedule to a T! Do not do anything that you do not have scheduled in your day timer during work hours.  If something comes up that you absolutely must do, sit for a moment and ask yourself if this is truly important enough to deviate from your schedule.  Family emergencies, illnesses and lunch with your hero fall into that category.  Lunch with your best friend, a sale at Pier 1 and watching YouTube videos do not.  If you decide this is truly important, put it in your day timer, make sure that there are no conflicts.
  6. At the end of 30 days, evaluate your schedule for efficiency. Were some days of the week better suited to certain tasks?  Adjust your schedule accordingly.

And Voila!  You are now an Entrepreneurial Ninja!

© Copyright 2010 Carlene Ashby

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Niche Selection and Branding for Coaches

Niche Selection and Branding for Coaches

By Carlene Ashby

Becoming a life coach is not an occupation one comes to lightly.  The decision to be a life coach has usually come out of a series of serendipitous events that led one down a path of spirituality and up a hill of accountability only to arrive at the summit of personal development and realize that there are no instructions for how to function up here!

By that, I mean that being a life coach is not just a career, it is a way of life.  And a relatively new one at that.  This young occupation is full of people who can coach anyone to excellence, but who are making less money than a Wal-Mart greeter.  Why?  Because there are very few people telling us how to run our businesses, craft our marketing and brand ourselves properly.

If you are an accountant or a doctor, not only do people understand what you do and what results to expect, they have a good idea of how much it should cost and how they’ll pay you.

The same is not true of coaching.  Coaching is unique, because everyone in the industry markets differently, charges differently, and produces different results.

Marketing yourself as a coach requires educating your prospects and enticing them with results and benefits, rather than systems and procedures.

According to Forbes.com, the salary of a life coach is six figures for only 10 to 20 percent of coaches.  The median annual income for life coaches in the United Sates is only $30,000 to $40,000 per year, which means that there are a LOT of coaches who are making much less than $30,000.

That is due to the fact that 85% of coaches have no idea how to market themselves in this unique forum.  The areas they typically fail in are:

  1. Niche Selection- They choose a niche that is not profitable or too broad a niche that is impossible to market to.  Remember: If you are marketing to everyone, you are marketing to no one.
  2. Branding- This includes your business name, your tagline, your logo and site design.  Most are named weakly, they have an unclear or weak tagline, the logo is forgettable or ugly or meaningless and the site usually looks cheap, crowded and unfocused.
  3. Packaging- They only provide one or two types of services instead of having several streams of income and the packages are not compelling enough.
  4. Content- Their site and their conversations around what they do focus on coaching, coaching systems, procedures, etc.  Remember: Nobody cares about coaching, how it is done, what systems you use, etc.  They only care about results.

When coaches are in the stages of business planning it is important to consider the above factors and consult an expert to ensure they are not investing their time and energy into a sinking ship.

When planning your business you must consider having several streams of income.  I like to explain this strategy this way:  Imagine your business as a big concrete platform a la ancient Greece.  On top of the platform is you and your family.  Now, would you rather have one column holding up the platform, or several columns holding up the platform?  I’m assuming you answered several, but I’ll explain why this is the best answer.  If one of the columns gets wiped out, your platform will not come tumbling down if there are several others holding it up.

For instance, if you do only one-on-one tele-coaching and the proverbial well dries up, your platform, that is supporting you and your loved ones, falls down.

Now imagine that you also have group coaching, products for sale, writing gigs, speaking engagements, radio spots, etc.  That platform will continue to support you because there are so many columns holding it up.

Starting out as a coach is overwhelming when you do not have help, and if you believe in coaching enough to become one, then invest in one.  Not just a life coach either.  Invest in a coach that is specialized in business and marketing.  Trust me, you’ll save yourself years of stress and thousands of dollars by doing it right the first time!

© Copyright 2010 Carlene Ashby

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Stretch your comfort zone to create bigger results

By Carlene Ashby

“To get something you’ve never had, you have to do something you’ve never done.”  ~Unknown

Do you want more clients, less stress, more fun and more money?  Of course you do!

Well then, my friend, you have got to stop doing what you always do and do something different.  That simple!

If there is a gap between what you want to create in your business and what you currently have, you need to bridge the gap by doing things you’ve never done before.

That can mean different things for different people.  For instance, if you want to attract many clients locally, and you know that public speaking would help you do that, but you are terrified of that, try other types of performing.  Take a dance class, join a choir, go to an acting workshop or something else that stretches your comfort zone without pushing you over the edge.

If you want to build your business by attracting clients via article marketing but article writing is not your strong suit, take a class at a community college or join a creative writing group who can help you flex your imagination muscles.

Stretching may not always directly relate to the area you are trying to improve upon either.  For instance, I have a client who has almost tripled her income since she started sticking to a strict diet that eliminates sugar and flour.  She swears that by showing herself that she had the discipline to commit to such a restrictive diet, she gained the faith in herself she needed to move forward with her business.

Whatever the stretch is, the key is to commit to it and follow through.  Keeping those agreements with yourself will lead to higher self-esteem, confidence and the ability to make quantum leaps in both your business and your personal life.

Your Prosperity Assignment:

1.      Write out 3 goals you have and beside each, write down why you do not currently have it.

Be honest with yourself.  Too often, my clients tell me they do not have any idea why they don’t have their goals yet, or worse, they say it is because of some person, circumstance or event outside of themselves.

Let me assure you that any reason that you come up with that is “out of your control” is total bullshit.  You are in control of your thoughts, beliefs, emotions and actions, therefore, you are in charge of your life.  If you do not have what you want, it is because either your thoughts, your beliefs, your emotions, your actions or some mixture of those is out of harmony with what you want.

2.      Identify a stretch that can help you bridge the gap.

For instance, if you decide that in order to get the success you want, you need to be more disciplined with your time, commit to a stretch of getting up one hour early to exercise or be in nature.  Committing to that on a daily basis is difficult, but very rewarding.

Your next stretch may be eliminating emails and phone calls during certain hours and allowing technology like voicemail to solve that problem.  Many of my clients’ biggest gap is that they do not see themselves as highly successful people subconsciously and to bridge that gap they must set up challenges and show themselves success.  This can be anything from losing weight, eliminating sugar or caffeine, finishing a non-fiction book a week, or whatever would best serve you at this time.

3.      Scare yourself DAILY!

Once a day, do something that is a stretch that scares you but is moving you in a forward direction.  This can be emailing someone you would like to joint venture with, hiring a Virtual Assistant or a Coach, trying a new food, asking someone to go for coffee or committing to a networking group.  Just find one thing everyday to do that scares you.  You’ll be surprised how much flow will come into your life when you start to do this.

4.      Set up an accountability structure.

Without accountability, nothing happens.  The resolve wanes, the passion fades and your goals slowly move to the back burner while you relax back into a comfortable pattern.  Does that sound familiar?  It does for most people, myself included.  Without my coaches, I’d be 20 lbs heavier, I’d have no clients because I wouldn’t have taken any of the steps I needed to, I’d have been too shy to talk to the man of my dreams (my partner, Andrew) and you certainly wouldn’t be reading this article because I’d still be thinking “Who cares what I have to say? Who am I, anyway?”  Pretty sad picture.   The fact is, we all need encouragement and accountability from someone who won’t take any of our BS or let us slide.  There are coaches for everything from quitting smoking to healing breast cancer to public speaking, so hire a coach, it works!

© Copyright 2010 Carlene Ashby

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How to Release Doubt and Gain Confidence

How to Release the Doubt and Gain the Confidence

By Carlene Ashby

Becoming a successful entrepreneur is a matter of having passion, perseverance, focus and faith.

The kiss of death for an entrepreneur is doubt and confusion.  Those two elements will have you acting from fear, making choices and then changing your mind, never following through on courses of action that could bring results.

I’ve seen my clients and even myself, at times, suffer during these bouts of confusion and doubt.  But as Huruki Murakami said, “Suffering is optional.”

It is your mind that creates the suffering.  It is your thoughts that create confusion and doubt.  Therefore, you need tools to help you keep your thoughts focused positively and productively.

Your Prosperity Assignment Should You Choose To Accept It:

  1. Let your emotions be your indicator. When you are feeling stressed, upset, sad, angry, frustrated, confused, or doubtful, you know your thoughts are not supporting you.  You cannot have a stressful emotion without a stressful thought.  So notice your thoughts.  What are you telling yourself? Write down your thoughts.  They may be something like this: “What if I am making the wrong choice?  I don’t know what I’m doing.  I always screw up.  I need more clients.  If I don’t get more clients this ship is going to sink.  I need to find more answers.  Maybe this person has them…”  And so the confusing wild goose chase for the next best answers ensues.  And there goes your focus.
  2. Choose a course of action and stick to it. If you find a mentor or program you decide to work with, stick to that.  Getting too many opinions on what you should do will keep you from following through on any course of action that might net results.  A trap that many entrepreneurs fall into is buying info product after info product that promises to have the answers you are looking for.  The truth is that many of those programs do work – if you work them.  But taking bits and pieces from here and there and never following a program all the way through will serve only to confuse and frustrate you.  The same goes for working with too many coaches.  Having different people with different approaches giving you guidance doesn’t work.  That is why a ship only ever has ONE captain.  It’s not because other captains don’t know what they are doing, or wouldn’t be able to take you where you want to go, it is because having one captain simplifies everything and keeps the ship from going off course or taking a detour.
  3. When doubt or confusion creeps in, don’t resist it, transmute it. Work with the energy of your emotions by meditating.  I learned this particular method from David and Kristin Morelli of EverythingIsEnergy.com.  Find a quiet spot where you won’t be disturbed. Put on some relaxing music if that helps you to let go of your thoughts.  Find a comfortable position to sit or lay in.  Now imagine that a waterfall of liquid gold is pouring into the top of your head, filling your head, your neck, your shoulders, your chest, your back, your torso, your legs your feet, and it continues to pour through your feet into a single stream that continues down into the earth, right down to the earth’s core.  Allow that energy to flow for a few minutes and enjoy warmth of it.  When you’re ready, focus your attention on the feelings within you that resemble stress, confusion and doubt.  Locate them in your body.  Now imagine that there is a bubble right in front of you with a magnet inside of it.  Intend for the magnet to pull out all of those uncomfortable feelings.  See the bubble filling with the doubt, confusion and stress.  It may look like smoke, or sludge, just notice it.  When you feel that all of the uncomfortable feelings or negative energy have left your body, see another bubble beside it the first.  It is a shimmering white or gold bubble with another magnet in it.  Intend for this magnet to draw all of your power out of the first bubble into the second.  See your power leaving the negative bubble and entering the shimmering bubble.  It may look like white light.  When all of your power has been drawn into the second bubble, decide what to do with the first bubble.  Some people like to pop it, some people like to imagine it being bathed in white light and floating off into space.  Some people imagine it being sucked into the golden waterfall and down into the earth’s core.  Whatever you want to do is perfect.  Now imagine the second bubble moving toward your belly, your core.  Intend for your power to re-enter your body and either pop the bubble, allowing your power to rush into you, or imagine the whole bubble entering your core.  Enjoy the wonderful feelings in your body.  When you are ready, wiggle your fingers and toes and become aware of your surroundings again.  Do this practice as often as you want.  Daily is recommended.
  4. Set up a to do list on your own or with your mentor or coach. Schedule everything that you need to do to reach your goals for the next three to six months.  Each time you cross something off your list, your confidence will increase.  When you have completed everything on that list, then evaluate whether or not you need a new “captain” or not.  Keep in mind that some actions take longer than others to show results.  You do not get to eat the fruit the day you plant the seed, so be patient and make sure you have realistic expectations.

© Copyright 2010 Carlene Ashby

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